You have the power to transform your thoughts and language into positive feelings, beliefs and affirmations
Your thoughts and language create your reality. Many linguists agree that the language we use, what we say and how we say it will shape our attitude and perception of the world around us. Some even go as far as saying that if you change your language (external and internal/self talk) you can change your behavior and change your life outcomes.
Do you use the language of certainty? Is your language about ‘moving away’ from danger, failure and loss OR is your language about ‘moving towards’ happiness, success and pleasure.Language that is ‘moving away’ rather than ‘moving toward’ is coming from someone who is avoiding fear or pain and is in a negative state. Language that is ‘moving toward’ is coming from a person who is consciously looking for new challenges for growth and is in a positive state. ‘Moving towards’ means creating pictures and language of what you do want and moving toward the goal or outcome.
Spend a day really listening to yourself communicate. Is your language ‘moving away’ or ‘moving toward’? What questions do you ask yourself and others and what common words do you use?
Reframing:
Reframing is the process of creating awareness around what we are saying to ourselves and, if negative, making a conscious choice to ‘reframe’ these thoughts and self talk into positive, resourceful language. You can reframe in two ways:
¥ Change the context (circumstance/story) of your thoughts & language
¥ Change the content (substance/meaning)
Your unconscious mind cannot process a negative. It will focus on what is said regardless of the positive or negative state. For example: if you say “Don’t forget your wallet” your unconscious mind hears “Forget your wallet”. A far more empowering thought would be “Remember your wallet”. If you focus on the problem you will get the problem, instead focus on the possibility. Always reframe to what you want the outcome and result to be.
Have you ever noticed that people who use a lot of negative language appear to live a very negative life. They struggle with life, experience hardship and problems just seem to find them. Their language is filled with blame, defense, justification and negativity. You’ll hear a lot of phrases such as: “I can’t, I don’t, I won’t, No, It’s hard, I never, Nothing ever…, I don’t know, I should, I could, I would, I shouldn’t, I couldn’t, I wouldn’t, But, I’m scared, I’d hate to”. They let their fears hold them back and their lack of results is all the proof they need that they are right.
Conversely, have you met someone who has a ‘presence’, exudes confidence and attracts success. They project joy, happiness, certainty, fun, seem high on life, peaceful, calm, relaxed, centred with high self-worth and respect for others. Their language is full of possibility, success, purpose and positivity. Their vocabulary would consist of an abundance of phrases such as: “I can, I do, I will, Yes, It’s easy, I always, What if I did, I must, I have to, Even more, I’m excited, I’d love to”.
“Sometimes the lies you tell are less frightening than the loneliness you might feel if you stopped telling them” ~ Brock Clarke
What limiting self talk are you holding onto? What are you pretending to not know, that if you were to know it, would enable you to reframe your most limiting thoughts and language effortlessly and easily right now to set your heart free? Need help, just ask...
