You have chosen your mindset to transform your life for extraordinary wellness. You have reframed your most limiting thoughts and set your heart free. You have created a list of the empowering emotions will you commit to feeling on a regular basis, right now. So, what next?
The BE / DO / HAVE Model
Who do you need to BE and what do you need to DO to HAVE the life you desire?
What an interesting concept. Shouldn’t it be “what do you want to HAVE then, what do you need to DO to BE the remarkable woman you believe you can be?” If you were wondering this then you are among good company I asked the exact same thing the first time I heard it and herein is where the challenges arise.
“Life is just like a mirror, and what you see out there, You must first see inside of you.” ~ Wally (Famous) Amos
I haven't always appreciated the BE-DO-HAVE model. Often I would ask myself, “Where is the lifestyle I desire?” I was ‘doing’ all the right things to ‘have’ all the right things yet the satisfaction, appreciation and gratitude never came.
When I was sinking into my despair a couple of years ago, all I could think about was what I didn’t HAVE in my life – I didn’t have enough time in the day, I didn’t have enough money, I didn’t have enough of me to go around with my children, my husband, my family and my friends let alone getting healthy. I was so focused on the things I wanted to HAVE but didn’t that I was running around DOING lots of jobs and juggling lots of balls without any thought about where I was going and whether I was getting there. The woman I BECAME was, depressed, unhealthy and severely stressed out.
That is when I realized I had to BE different and it wasn’t about having things or doing things differently. It started with me believing I could BE better - happier, healthier and a lot more balanced. That is the paradox, the act of being will produce the having. Even the simple act of laughter when you are feeling down will lift your emotional state and you will feel happier, lighter and more present.
“BE the change you want to see in the world.” ~ Mahatma Gandhi
Once I started to focus on me and what I could BE, I started doing things that a happy, healthy and balanced woman would do and guess what happened? I began bringing more of the haves into my life – more time, more balance and even more money.
Call it the ‘Law of Attraction’, positive thinking, the ‘power of the universe’, call it whatever you want. The BE-DO-HAVE model works! And when combined with positive affirmations allowed me to focus on who I needed to BE to achieve extraordinary wellness in my life. Once I got it, and I mean really got it, my life transformed!
By choosing empowering affirmations and repeating them daily with commitment and emotion (at least eight times a day), the more you will believe them. The more repetitions, the more real they will become and the more you will become the person you need to BE. As we have previously stated, what you choose to focus on becomes your reality so:
“Fake it till you make it, girlfriend!”
Reflect back now to my post on “Your Wheel of Life Assessment”. With an abundance of opportunity, possibility and success, rerate each segment of your Wheel of Life. Now, for each of those segments, choose an affirmation about who you need to BE to achieve that rating. Then write these out, stick them up everywhere AND say them many times a day to create your own transformation!
